Dating Profile Fix: My Abusive Past
May 6, 2009 by E. Foley · Comments Off
Do you disclose an abusive past relationship in your profile? Are there things better saved for when you know someone better?
Welcome to the Daily Fix, where we take snippets from real dating profiles and changes the names to protect the not-so-innocent.
Today’s subject is a 30-something woman we’ll call Yasmine.
Before:
I recently came out of my first and only 5 year abusive relationship that was meant to destroy me. I broke free coming out wiser than before. Now, I can ultimately describe a good man because of the bad encounter. That chapter is closed in my life and I am hoping to open a new one.
What This Says:
First off, I feel for Yasmine. Abusive relationships can really destroy a person and so big kudos to her for having the strength to get out of it and the guts to put herself back on the market.
However…
The time to reveal news like this is not in a dating profile that will be read by hundreds (if not thousands) of strangers. Frankly, it will scare off some really good guys.
The Fix:
Yasmine needs to focus on the good things of her life. Her past is something she can discuss with a man who she’s gotten to know better and feels would be a good potential mate.
Seen a bad profile recently? (Maybe your own?) Email it to me and it may be featured on an upcoming Daily Fix.
Dating Profile Fix: The Dreaded M Word Isn’t Marriage!
April 27, 2009 by E. Foley · Comments Off
Did you know that there’s a scarier word in your dating profile than “marriage“? It’s driving people away from your profile in droves… even the ones who would be a great fit for you.
Welcome to the Daily Fix, where we take snippets from real dating profiles and changes the names to protect the not-so-innocent.
Today’s subject is a 40-something lady who we’ll call Renee.
Before:
Anyone with any drama in their lives need not respond. In this day and age, I believe in monogamy. If you can make me laugh continuously, treat me like a lady, but most of all, be a warm and caring human being, then I would enjoy talking with you first.
What This Says:
“I’ve been cheated on before.”
“I attract cheaters and losers.”
“I’ll talk to you FIRST if you seem better, but I may have to fall back on these other options.”
The Fix:
The scary “M” word is monogamy. Take it out!! Saying you’re into monogamy sends up red flags that you’ve been in relationships that have been less than monogamous. Even if you have, the time to discuss that is LATER, not now.
I’m looking for a life partner – my best friend who will be by my side through everything life has to throw at us. He’s a warm and caring man who loves to make me laugh and he believes (like I do) that it’s possible to find The One after 40!
Seen a bad profile recently? (Maybe your own?) Email it to me and it may be featured on an upcoming Daily Fix.